Beginning the journey of discovery of your true love-north | Manifest Love

Beginning the journey of discovery of your true love north.

Before you enter into your soulmate relationship, you must learn some new skills

Non-violent communication is the first and most important of those skill.

Non-violent communication does not mean to be a passive doormat, it does not mean not being 100 % true to yourself, but it does mean that you commit to not breaking this relationship through your own red flags. Take my course on healing self toxic behavior’s if you have emotional wounds and scars, invest in your healing, give yourself the empathy that you crave from others. You can’t come to soulmate love with an abrasive ego or a cantankerous self righteous personality, if you have to spend time learning about humility, begin with that. To understand the absolute value of how to handle communication, and how to embrace conflict when it arises in a way that generates more heat and passion, rather than destruction and breakdown of the love, take my Love Course. It is a one of a kind manifestation course, created for you to become your true and honest self, while deeply connecting in a long term committed relationship.

Now, lets take a moment to shake the scarcity mindset because….

 Right now, on this planet, there are billions potential soulmates.

Yes. That is right, BILLIONS. All you have to do, is align yourself correctly.

But how can we accurately define who a soulmate is?

A common thread among those people who have found theirs, is  a conviction that the person they with, is for whatever reason “the one” that they are meant to be with. Other than that, there are no lab tests to conduct, and no verifiable truth based on any outside source. No guru, spiritual master, shaman, astrological chart, that can prove soulmate status to anyone. 

If you start googling what a soulmate is, you will get almost as many answers as there are people. I will add the label Twin Flame here. If you look for answers outside of yourself you are looking in all the wrong places, find your answer, it is planted within yourown heart at the time of your birth. 

It is not as simple as declaring for example that someone is “ your child” or “your  wife” 

Consider how a child comes to be yours, it is born from your genetic material. It is yours. A child can also be adopted, and it is then “yours”.

A spouse is someone you choose, a spouse is not born your spouse. You choose each other, and then you declare “ this is my spouse”. If you have a deep inner connection to the divine, your spouse is your soulmate. 

But what IS  a soulmate?

Is it a genetic component, like a child? Not very likely. 

Is it someone you choose like a spouse? 

Perhaps in part yes. But that is not all of it is it? 

Most people believe that there is a spiritual component to being soulmates also, as the name suggests; a mate of the soul. 

Not just a mate for your body

Not just a mate for your mind and  intellect, someone to converse with. 

Not just a mate to share the rent with, and not just a mate to raise children together with.

A mate for your soul, a soul to soul connection.

To mystify the matter further, there appears to be many people who believe that they have met their soulmate but the relationship is tumultuous, destructive, and filled with pain, drama, and heartache. Yet other people believe that their soulmate is someone who they are not even with, and it is not a mutual belief, but a one sided belief, still they are convinced, pining forever for their “soulmate”.

The truth is of course that nobody “knows” what a soulmate is.

“A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise. Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we’re two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we’ve found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life. ”

– Richard Bach

The insight from Richard Bach’s quote being that perhaps a soulmate is someone with whom we have a shared destiny, as in the two balloons going up, in addition to a deep spiritual connection.

“A soulmate is the one person whose love is powerful enough to motivate you to meet your soul, to do the emotional work of self-discovery, of awakening.”

– Kenny Loggins

Or perhaps this is the soulmate, the one you do not have to already perfect for, the one that doesn’t say, love yourself first, but rather, let me love all the pieces that you have hidden from the public until you become whole again, until you meet your soul?

“Have you ever felt really close to someone? So close that you can’t understand why you and the other person have two separate bodies, two separate skins?”

– Nancy Garden

Or is this Nancy Garde quote what defines the soulmate, is it that you are in fact the same soul, one soul, and we have split into two bodies here on earth, two separate avatars, and the meeting is actually the soul recognizing its other half?

“I feel like a part of my soul has loved you since the beginning of everything. Maybe we’re from the same star.”

 – Emery Allen

Is the soulmate the one that avails us to the nonduality of all of existence, the universe the stars all of humanity throughout time, and with God ? We are all one, but we all feels so disconnected, so divided, so alone and lost. We have no ability to deeply relate to each other, until we meet the one that shows us beyond all doubt, that we are one. From the same star.

I believe that a soulmate is ALL of these things. People who believe that they are with their soulmate believe that their soulmate is exactly who they have been waiting for, and they are exactly who their soulmate has been waiting for, and when they meet, it is unlike any other coming together. 

If you want to meet your soulmate right now, you need to make a commitment.

We get what we commit to, so fully commit yourself to this process right now.

Have a clear vision.

Clarity is everything.

The manifesting steps are:

1. HAVE a desire

2. Be clear.

3. Set an intention.

4. Receive.

Get clarity like this:

Create your soulmate list. Qualities, attributes, what you WANT. Be specific, it can be many pages.  It can be one page, it can be twenty pages.

List dealbreakers, not too many, but real absolute deal breakers. This could be additions, adultery, abuse, whatever is an absolute deal breaker.

List what you are bringing. Do you need to bring more, are you all that already, think about what is amazing about you, and as you go through this list you will examine your heart and soul, and you will be more clear on your positive qualities that you bring

Consider the feeling more than anything else, mutuality, how do you both FEEL in the relationship?

Make space:

If you are serious about meeting your soulmate right now, you need to stop seeing anyone else right now, that is not your soulmate. You need to make energetic space for your person to enter in. Let anyone go right now, lovers, people you keep stringing along etc.

Make room in your life. For real.

Tell a new story!

Energize your feelings of in love. Divine timing happens best when you are in God-space

Invest in yourself. Get therapy, get a gym membership, learn the hobby you’ve always dreamed of. Only positive people, and investments. Give back, charity etc .If you give of something you open the lid on that cup for receiving. Imagine that previously, your cup had a lid, and no love flowed out, but no love flowed in. ALL love is divine in origin, and the only direction for love is into our cup and through us, we do not generate it on our own. We receive love. But your receptacle must be open. Open it up by giving love everywhere you can. There will be no more room for your old pity story. Leave that behind for good.


Get ready. Continue to hold space. Divine timing will do the rest.

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