The delicate balance between addressing mental health conditions like OCD, anxiety, and delusions while navigating the Law of Assumption/Attraction with care and mindfulness:
Mental Health and the Law of Assumption: A Delicate Balance
Mental health conditions, such as OCD, deep anxiety, obsession, phobias and delusions, can present profound challenges in daily life. The intricate nature of these conditions often leads individuals to seek various avenues for relief and healing. One such path is the Law of Assumption (or Attraction.) Manifesting desires by assuming their fulfillment seems like an easy way out of the painful intrusive thoughts, but in reality it can cause even more pain and confusion for some. While a powerful tool, its application in the realm of mental health requires delicate consideration and understanding.
The Human Nature to Avoid Accountability
As humans, it is innate to seek ways to alleviate our fears and anxieties. The Law of Assumption/Attraction offers an attractive prospect by allowing us to manifest positive outcomes, circumventing our fears and worries. However, for individuals grappling with conditions like OCD and anxiety, it’s crucial to tread carefully. The desire to escape the clutches of their condition can inadvertently lead to bypassing the necessary steps towards healing and understanding.
The Path to Healing: Understanding Mental Health Conditions
The journey towards healing mental health conditions begins with acknowledgment and acceptance. Mostly self-acceptance, which is something that I have talked a lot about in my podcast. Weekly therapy appointments using methods such as Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP),Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Cognitive Therapy and Dialectical Behavior (CBT)T or medication if prescribed, and participation in support groups offer essential foundations. These actions create a safety net, providing individuals with tools to understand their condition and cope effectively. Without this foundation, LAO may just be another delusion or obsession, creating worsening symptoms.
The Role of Law of Assumption/Attraction
Law of Assumption/Attraction, when introduced into the healing journey, should be approached with caution. Initially, it’s vital to maintain a lighthearted approach to manifesting desires. Overwhelming or intense manifestation attempts can inadvertently trigger anxiety and exacerbate the mental health condition. Individuals with OCD, especially, tend to approach LOA as a life or death situation. This is counterproductive.
The Importance of Light-hearted Manifestation
Choosing a light-hearted approach to manifestation involves infusing positivity, playfulness, and gentleness into the process. The focus should be on joy, gratitude, and hopeful anticipation, keeping manifestations within a comforting, safe space.
Avoiding Spiritual Bypassing
One must guard against spiritual bypassing, a tendency to use spiritual beliefs and practices to bypass or avoid facing the true depths of their mental health condition. A premature leap into intense manifesting can inadvertently become an escape from dealing with the underlying fears and anxieties.
Finding the Right Balance
The key lies in striking the right balance. Begin by focusing on understanding and managing the mental health condition effectively. Once a stable and well-maintained state is achieved, gentle exploration of the Law of Assumption/Attraction can take place.
Breaking the Cycle of Self-Imposed Pain
Awareness of the dual nature of manifestation allows us to break free from patterns that cause self-inflicted pain.
Closing Thoughts
This post has been created with the observation that just as many individuals cause themselves pain, as pleasure, using the Law of Assumption. Until an awareness of compulsions, phobias, delusions or intrusive thoughts has been established, LOA tends to be a roller coaster ride of emotional ups and downs. Understanding and addressing mental health conditions is a journey that demands patience, compassion, and self-awareness. The Law of Assumption/Attraction IS s transformative tool, when approached mindfully and in harmony with the individual’s mental well-being. Remember to always aim for a lighthearted manifestation approach, and to avoiding spiritual bypassing.
Bessel van der Kolk, a renowned psychiatrist and author of “The Body Keeps the Score,” delves into the idea that individuals can become “addicted” to their trauma and the feelings of helplessness associated with it. This concept sheds light on the profound impact trauma can have on a person’s psyche and behavior, often resulting in complex challenges when trying to overcome its effects.
Reacting to circumstances is an ADDICTION, and the addict can not find the desired end state, satisfaction, in temporary things.
“The Law Of Assumption, as the current name is for these teachings of manifesting, manifesting with awareness, and understanding that our inner reflects out as our experience, forces us to look at things very differently. These teachings are eye opening, it is the bridge between spirituality, the physical experience and psychology. In some ways LOA is The missing piece. But without understanding that the unconditional love for the whole is always everyone’s true nature, whether we are aware of it in our current state, or not, this practice can make the addiction worse. The greatest reward for the happiness of discovering the nature of love, is happiness and love itself. If the only reason you hold yourself back from realizing, and from admitting your desires, is that you will not get them, listen, this is all for you. If you are chasing circumstances as if they had power to trigger you, this is for you.“
+Dr Anna Bäck
Elaborating on the Notion of Trauma Addiction:
Neurobiological Perspective: Traumatic experiences can shape the brain’s structure and function. When someone undergoes a traumatic event, especially during early developmental stages, it can influence neural pathways associated with stress, fear, and emotional regulation. Over time, the brain may become accustomed to these pathways, leading to a kind of “addiction” to the physiological and emotional responses triggered by trauma.
Psychological Conditioning: Trauma can create a conditioned response where the brain associates certain stimuli or situations with the traumatic event. This association can be so ingrained that individuals may unknowingly seek out or recreate similar circumstances that mimic the original trauma. This pattern can manifest as self-destructive behaviors or getting stuck in abusive relationships.
Helplessness and Reenactment: Van der Kolk’s concept emphasizes that the feeling of helplessness during a traumatic event can be deeply imprinted in an individual’s psyche. Paradoxically, this helplessness can become a familiar state, and individuals may inadvertently reenact situations that perpetuate this feeling. Breaking free from this cycle requires recognizing and addressing the addiction to the known—even if it’s painful—helpless state.
Impact on Decision-making: Trauma addiction can affect decision-making processes, leading individuals to make choices that maintain their state of helplessness. These choices might hinder progress or prevent them from seeking opportunities for healing and growth. It becomes essential to understand and disrupt this pattern to move towards a healthier and empowered life.
Therapeutic Approaches: Effective therapies often involve addressing trauma at both the cognitive and somatic levels. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), and somatic experiencing are examples of therapeutic approaches that help individuals reprocess traumatic memories, alter thought patterns, and develop healthier coping strategies.
Empowerment and Healing: Overcoming trauma addiction requires a multi-faceted approach that involves empowering individuals to regain control over their lives. This empowerment can come from therapy, support groups, education about trauma’s effects, and cultivating resilience and self-compassion. It involves redefining one’s identity beyond the trauma and embracing a new narrative focused on healing and growth.
Understanding the concept of becoming “addicted” to trauma can provide insights into the complex nature of trauma and how it influences an individual’s perception, behaviors, and path towards recovery. It underscores the importance of trauma-informed care, where professionals work with individuals to break free from the clutches of trauma and move towards a more fulfilling and empowered life.
Cross-posted from Living Wellness’s sister site; Annabackacupuncture.com, A Daoist Wellness Blog created by me (Dr Anna)
For anyone who is struggling with trauma related mental health, or “brain” related mental health, I am dedicated to helping. No matter what your situation or starting point, the individual.
YOU are the focus of healing, self-acceptance and a wonderful jubilant quality of life, regardless of who you are.
Cultivating Intimacy and Reigniting Desire: The Power of Healthy Arguments in Marriage
After the honeymoon phase, many couples experience a decline in sexual desire and intimacy in their marriage. The initial sparks of passion may dwindle, and the routine of daily life takes over. However, it doesn’t have to be this way. In fact, embracing healthy arguments can be the key to keeping the flame alive and sustaining a strong and passionate connection with your spouse. In this blog post, we will explore the role of healthy arguments in nurturing intimacy and manifesting a deeper love in your marriage.
Feeling unseen and unheard in a marriage can be an incredibly isolating and lonely experience. When we express our concerns or complaints, and they are consistently met with dismissal or shut down, it can leave us feeling invalidated and invisible. Every time our attempts to communicate are met with resistance, it reinforces the belief that our feelings and needs don’t matter.
Over time, this pattern can erode the emotional connection between partners, leading to a profound sense of disconnection. The longing to be seen and heard is a fundamental human need, especially in an intimate relationship. When this need goes unmet, it can create a deep sense of loneliness and emotional distance, further exacerbating the challenges in the relationship. Creating an environment of open communication and genuine understanding is vital to nurturing intimacy and building a stronger emotional bond in a marriage.
Feeling unseen and unheard in a marriage can have a significant impact on sexual desire and intimacy. When partners don’t feel emotionally connected or understood, it creates a disconnect that extends to the physical aspect of the relationship. Sexual desire is intricately linked to emotional intimacy, trust, and vulnerability. When individuals feel emotionally distant or invalidated, it becomes challenging to feel safe and open in the context of physical intimacy.
Understanding the Erosion of Sexual Desire:
In a relationship where communication is shut down or met with resistance, one or both partners may begin to suppress their sexual desires and needs. Over time, this suppression can lead to a decline in sexual desire and passion in the relationship.
Moreover, feeling unseen and unheard can lead to a lack of emotional connection, making sex feel mechanical and devoid of intimacy. When emotional needs go unmet, it becomes difficult to engage fully in sexual experiences, as they may feel disconnected and unfulfilling.
It’s important to recognize that emotional and sexual intimacy are intertwined in a healthy marriage. Addressing the underlying issues of feeling unseen and unheard through open and honest communication can foster a deeper emotional connection and reignite sexual desire. By actively listening to each other’s needs and concerns, partners can create a safe space for vulnerability, leading to a more fulfilling and passionate physical relationship.
As time goes on, couples may find that the once fiery passion in their relationship has fizzled out. The lack of sexual desire can be attributed to various factors, one of which is the feeling of not being seen or heard by our partner. When communication breaks down, intimacy suffers, and sex becomes a mere mechanical act, devoid of the emotional connection it once had. The absence of intimacy in the relationship can lead to a gradual decline in sexual desire, creating a cycle that worsens over time.
The Power of Healthy Arguments:
Contrary to common belief, healthy arguments can be a catalyst for reigniting desire and intimacy in marriage. Engaging in constructive disagreements allows both partners to express their thoughts, emotions, and needs openly. When conflicts are resolved with understanding and empathy, it strengthens the emotional bond between spouses. The key is to approach arguments with respect and a genuine desire to find common ground, rather than resorting to hurtful or destructive behavior.
Breaking Free from the Fear of Conflict:
In our culture, there is a prevalent fear of conflict in relationships. Many believe that arguing indicates a problem within the marriage. However, embracing healthy arguments as an opportunity for growth and connection can transform the way we view disagreements. Instead of avoiding conflict, couples should see it as a chance to address underlying issues, improve communication, and enhance intimacy.
Nurturing Intimacy Through Scheduled Arguments:
One powerful approach to maintain intimacy is by scheduling dedicated time for arguments or discussions each week. This might sound counterintuitive, but setting aside a specific time to address concerns and express feelings can prevent them from festering and causing more significant problems later on. During these scheduled discussions, couples should create a safe space for open dialogue, active listening, and mutual understanding. Remember, the goal is not to win an argument but to deepen the emotional connection between partners.
Building a Manifesting Love Ritual:
Alongside scheduled arguments, couples can also establish a manifesting love ritual. This ritual could involve sharing appreciations and expressing gratitude for each other daily. Additionally, engaging in small acts of kindness, surprises, or affectionate gestures can keep the love and desire alive. Consistent effort in nurturing the relationship can lead to a profound sense of closeness and emotional intimacy.
The Continuous Journey of Love
Remember, love is an ongoing journey of exploration and growth. Embracing healthy arguments as opportunities for understanding and connection can lead to a more profound and fulfilling love. Don’t shy away from disagreements; instead, approach them with empathy and curiosity. With the right mindset and approach, couples can reignite the spark of desire, foster deeper intimacy, and manifest a love that continues to grow and flourish in their marriage.”
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The LAW OF ASSUMPTION on NEED! Don’t miss this post
Are you tired of being told that NEED is a hindrance to your manifestations? That you must follow rigid rules to achieve your desires? Let’s delve into the simple truth at the core of this powerful law.
For all the Law of assumption ”coaches” who tell you that NEED is bad: That you CAN’T have your manifestation unless you xyz…. Let’s get this straight.
The simple fact in life boils down to this:
The law of assumption states that what you assume becomes true for you. SO why not assume something much more connected, harmonious and heart felt than callously closing your heart OFF?
The Law of Assumption teaches us that what we assume becomes our reality. So, why not focus on something deeper and more soul-stirring than shutting ourselves off from our true emotions?
You can either feel needy or you can feel needed.
Everything else is commentary.
Everything else is just background noise
I will say this to you, so that you can gage where your own sense of need is. Make THIS distinction:
If you feel needy, you are headed for depression….
If you feel needed, you are headed for a life that is meaningful and happy…
How simple is that?
Someone feeling needed gives them more meaning to life than being loved does. A child that is loved but not needed becomes depressed, it is the same with us.
Our core essence craves the sense of being needed more than love or security. Victor Frankl, a keen observer of survivors in concentration camps, discovered that purpose—feeling needed—kept people resilient even in the darkest of times.
In today’s world, narcissistic messages abound, and their prevalence only seems to escalate. But let’s not succumb to this trend; instead, let’s embrace our innate power.
When we “become “FEEL needy”, we weaken ourselves—whether we have everything we need or lack certain things. Feeling needy can drag us down and rob us of our vitality.
In contrast, “being needed” grants us a profound sense of purpose. When someone else depends on us, we carry the torch of significance without the burden of self-centeredness. It’s in this service to others that our true selves emerge.
We are hellbent on manifesting more and more independence and selfishness, but it won’t give your life meaning. People who are suicidal feel unnecessary. NOT needed.
sacred path to a life of purpose, happiness, and genuine fulfillment
A human being would rather be needed than loved.
It goes both ways.
ASSUME that you should be NEEDED
Live in such a way that you fulfill others needs, be of humble service to your community
Remember the ancient wisdom of the Ten Utterances: “It is not GOOD for man to be alone.” At times, being alone might seem appealing, free from responsibilities and concerns for others. But then, when you truly feel the weight of aloneness, you’ll understand that it can take a toll on your well-being. Feeling alone and unneeded can even weaken your immune system. Think about this when you imagined yourself into the dead-end of feeling undeserving of love and relationships. It is not about worth or deserving, it is about our access to our own goodness.
“It is not good for man to be alone”, which means that there is no GOODNESS to being alone, there is GOODNESS in our connections. GOODNESS happens between humans.
Embrace your significance, cherish the feeling of being needed, and witness how it elevates your life to new heights of meaning and purpose. By affirming your own worth and significance, you naturally attract loving and compatible individuals into your life. Be open to new connections, and trust that the right person who genuinely appreciates and values you will come into your life when the time is right.
I am Needed, I am Essential:
I am valued and essential in the lives of those around me.
My presence makes a positive difference in the world.
I am deserving of love and appreciation for who I am.
Others seek my guidance and support because they trust me.
My contributions are meaningful and impactful.
I am surrounded by people who value and respect me.
I have unique talents and gifts to offer to others.
My actions and words inspire and uplift those around me.
I am a source of strength and comfort to my loved ones.
Others rely on me because they recognize my abilities.
I attract people who appreciate and acknowledge my worth.
I am needed, and my presence brings joy to others.
I am a beacon of hope and positivity in challenging times.
My existence enriches the lives of those I encounter.
I am an important part of a supportive and caring community.
Others recognize and honor the impact I have on their lives.
I am a source of encouragement and motivation to others.
My love and kindness make a significant difference in the world.
I am needed and cherished for my unique qualities.
I am significant, and my life has purpose and meaning.
Gratitude serves as the key that unlocks the door to a world of conscious manifestation. By understanding and embracing the art of receptivity and gratitude, we open ourselves to the flow of abundance that surrounds us. Just as tuning a radio to a specific frequency allows us to catch a particular station, gratitude tunes our hearts to the frequency of positivity and blessings, attracting more of the same into our lives.
Within the pages of this enlightening book, we come to understand that we are manifesting machines, constantly co-creating our reality through our desires and aversions, knowingly or unknowingly. The energy we emit through our thoughts and emotions acts as a powerful magnet, drawing in similar frequencies from the cosmos. Gratitude becomes the guiding light that aligns us with the divine flow of life, allowing us to wait patiently for the fullness and maximum results of our manifestations, rather than rushing impulsively.
Beginning the journey of discovery of your true love north.
Before you enter into your soulmate relationship, you must learn some new skills
Non-violent communication is the first and most important of those skill.
Non-violent communication does not mean to be a passive doormat, it does not mean not being 100 % true to yourself, but it does mean that you commit to not breaking this relationship through your own red flags. Take my course on healing self toxic behavior’s if you have emotional wounds and scars, invest in your healing, give yourself the empathy that you crave from others. You can’t come to soulmate love with an abrasive ego or a cantankerous self righteous personality, if you have to spend time learning about humility, begin with that. To understand the absolute value of how to handle communication, and how to embrace conflict when it arises in a way that generates more heat and passion, rather than destruction and breakdown of the love, take my Love Course. It is a one of a kind manifestation course, created for you to become your true and honest self, while deeply connecting in a long term committed relationship.
Now, lets take a moment to shake the scarcity mindset because….
Right now, on this planet, there are billions potential soulmates.
Yes. That is right, BILLIONS. All you have to do, is align yourself correctly.
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But how can we accurately define who a soulmate is?
A common thread among those people who have found theirs, is a conviction that the person they with, is for whatever reason “the one” that they are meant to be with. Other than that, there are no lab tests to conduct, and no verifiable truth based on any outside source. No guru, spiritual master, shaman, astrological chart, that can prove soulmate status to anyone.
If you start googling what a soulmate is, you will get almost as many answers as there are people. I will add the label Twin Flame here. If you look for answers outside of yourself you are looking in all the wrong places, find your answer, it is planted within yourown heart at the time of your birth.
It is not as simple as declaring for example that someone is “ your child” or “your wife”
Consider how a child comes to be yours, it is born from your genetic material. It is yours. A child can also be adopted, and it is then “yours”.
A spouse is someone you choose, a spouse is not born your spouse. You choose each other, and then you declare “ this is my spouse”. If you have a deep inner connection to the divine, your spouse is your soulmate.
But what IS a soulmate?
Is it a genetic component, like a child? Not very likely.
Is it someone you choose like a spouse?
Perhaps in part yes. But that is not all of it is it?
Most people believe that there is a spiritual component to being soulmates also, as the name suggests; a mate of the soul.
Not just a mate for your body.
Not just a mate for your mind and intellect, someone to converse with.
Not just a mate to share the rent with, and not just a mate to raise children together with.
A mate for your soul, a soul to soul connection.
To mystify the matter further, there appears to be many people who believe that they have met their soulmate but the relationship is tumultuous, destructive, and filled with pain, drama, and heartache. Yet other people believe that their soulmate is someone who they are not even with, and it is not a mutual belief, but a one sided belief, still they are convinced, pining forever for their “soulmate”.
The truth is of course that nobody “knows” what a soulmate is.
“A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise. Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we’re two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we’ve found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life. ”
– Richard Bach
The insight from Richard Bach’s quote being that perhaps a soulmate is someone with whom we have a shared destiny, as in the two balloons going up, in addition to a deep spiritual connection.
“A soulmate is the one person whose love is powerful enough to motivate you to meet your soul, to do the emotional work of self-discovery, of awakening.”
– Kenny Loggins
Or perhaps this is the soulmate, the one you do not have to already perfect for, the one that doesn’t say, love yourself first, but rather, let me love all the pieces that you have hidden from the public until you become whole again, until you meet your soul?
“Have you ever felt really close to someone? So close that you can’t understand why you and the other person have two separate bodies, two separate skins?”
– Nancy Garden
Or is this Nancy Garde quote what defines the soulmate, is it that you are in fact the same soul, one soul, and we have split into two bodies here on earth, two separate avatars, and the meeting is actually the soul recognizing its other half?
“I feel like a part of my soul has loved you since the beginning of everything. Maybe we’re from the same star.”
– Emery Allen
Is the soulmate the one that avails us to the nonduality of all of existence, the universe the stars all of humanity throughout time, and with God ? We are all one, but we all feels so disconnected, so divided, so alone and lost. We have no ability to deeply relate to each other, until we meet the one that shows us beyond all doubt, that we are one. From the same star.
I believe that a soulmate is ALL of these things. People who believe that they are with their soulmate believe that their soulmate is exactly who they have been waiting for, and they are exactly who their soulmate has been waiting for, and when they meet, it is unlike any other coming together.
If you want to meet your soulmate right now, you need to make a commitment.
We get what we commit to, so fully commit yourself to this process right now.
Have a clear vision.
Clarity is everything.
The manifesting steps are:
1. HAVE a desire
2. Be clear.
3. Set an intention.
4. Receive.
Get clarity like this:
Create your soulmate list. Qualities, attributes, what you WANT. Be specific, it can be many pages. It can be one page, it can be twenty pages.
List dealbreakers, not too many, but real absolute deal breakers. This could be additions, adultery, abuse, whatever is an absolute deal breaker.
List what you are bringing. Do you need to bring more, are you all that already, think about what is amazing about you, and as you go through this list you will examine your heart and soul, and you will be more clear on your positive qualities that you bring
Consider the feeling more than anything else, mutuality, how do you both FEEL in the relationship?
Make space:
If you are serious about meeting your soulmate right now, you need to stop seeing anyone else right now, that is not your soulmate. You need to make energetic space for your person to enter in. Let anyone go right now, lovers, people you keep stringing along etc.
Make room in your life. For real.
Tell a new story!
Energize your feelings of in love. Divine timing happens best when you are in God-space
Invest in yourself. Get therapy, get a gym membership, learn the hobby you’ve always dreamed of. Only positive people, and investments. Give back, charity etc .If you give of something you open the lid on that cup for receiving. Imagine that previously, your cup had a lid, and no love flowed out, but no love flowed in. ALL love is divine in origin, and the only direction for love is into our cup and through us, we do not generate it on our own. We receive love. But your receptacle must be open. Open it up by giving love everywhere you can. There will be no more room for your old pity story. Leave that behind for good.
Receive.
Get ready. Continue to hold space. Divine timing will do the rest.
Overcoming the Victim Mentality: LOA Journey to Self-Empowerment.
You dwell upon a thing for a long while and make it real, so you’re always coming back to it. That state to which I most often return constitutes my dwelling place. You’ll find a certain person – after a little while, he’s always talking on a certain subject, and he’s coming back to it and back to it and back to it.
He may be talking about poverty, and always talking poverty. Well then, follow him. He moves his home, he moves his job − he moves everything, because the state to which I most constantly return constitutes the place where I dwell. So follow my Imagination. Where does it dwell most often in the course of a day? That’s my dwelling place.
The victim mentality is a self-defeating energy that repels positive experiences and hinders personal growth. It can prevent us from manifesting the love, abundance, and happiness we desire. Allow me to share a few real-life examples that highlight the destructive nature of this mindset and how it sabotages our dreams.
When I was 17 years old, I lived in Israel—a breathtaking place along the coast of the Mediterranean Sea. One day, while strolling along the beach boardwalk, I came across a small deli / pub that was under construction and about to open. The owner, named Michael, was staining the wood deck, getting it ready for opening day, and listening to music that instantly resonated with me. We struck up a conversation, and I ended up helping him stain the entire deck that day. During our conversation, I discovered that Michael had an infatuation with an American girl he had met years ago. He spoke of her with longing, pining and sadness, trapped in a victim-like state. Instead of taking action to pursue his desires, he remained stuck in a cycle of yearning and self-pity. He couldn’t see everything around him that was nothing short of amazingly, but neither did he take action to follow through on his desire for said American girl…This victim mentality is a repelling energy for anything good.
Another example involves a man who sought advice on a Law of Assumption group on Facebook. He had recently started dating a woman and had a few pleasant dates with her. However, she had to cancel one date at the last minute because her toddler got sick. The man became outraged and felt as though the woman owed him something. He was asking how to “make her conform“, a common expression among people who have heard about Law of Assumption only in the context of “getting”, and believe that EIYPO is the same as “other people are not real”. Puhleeese! He failed to realize that after only a few dates, he barely knew her, and she had a VERY legitimate reason to prioritize her child’s well-being. This attitude of entitlement and victimhood repels love and positive connections. It disregards the needs and circumstances of others and places one’s own desires above all else. Entitlement is one facet of a victim mindset.
Finally, let’s explore the story of an abusive relationship. I found myself deeply infatuated with someone who, after a few weeks of intense dating, displayed extreme jealousy. He accused me of infidelity based on his own insecure assumptions. This toxic mindset stems from a victim mentality, as it disregards trust, communication, and the ability to believe someone’s truth. It ultimately led to an unhealthy and abusive relationship.
Nuff examples now, I’m off the soap box, let’s dive into what to do if you are stuck in a victim mindset!.
A victim mentality can only manifest more negativity and here is why:
The above examples illustrate how the victim mentality prevents us from manifesting love and fulfilling relationships, because it keeps us trapped in patterns of self-pity, entitlement, and insecurity. We manifest what we “are” not what we want, so if what we are is a walking talking pity party well….
But it goes beyond relationships, a victim mindset is pervasive and repel our good in all areas of life. However, it is crucial to remember that we have the power to break free from this mindset and create the happiness we deserve, and it is all about the “state.”
The state of victimhood does not perceive opportunities, love or goodwill, it is like a giant chip on your shoulder. By acknowledging our own worth, developing self-confidence, and cultivating a mindset of abundance, we can overcome the victim mentality. It requires letting go of the need for external validation and embracing personal responsibility for our own mindset. When we shift our perspective, we open ourselves to opportunities, genuine connections, and the love we truly desire.
Remember, we hold the power to break free from the victim mentality and manifest the life we envision. It is a matter of a shift in state.
Let go of self-defeating beliefs and embrace self-love. By doing so, we empower ourselves to create a future filled with love, joy, and fulfillment.
Understanding the Victim Mentality through the Law of Assumption
The victim mentality is a “state of mind” where one frequently perceives themselves as a victim, despite evidence suggesting otherwise. It manifests through tendencies to blame others and a struggle with accepting personal responsibility.
Of course, we all experience moments when it seems like the world is conspiring against us, and there are times when we seek understanding from others, yet feel misunderstood or overlooked in our pain, but the victim mentality is pervasive, it is not a not a once in a while occurrence. We may embark on a journey of positive change, only to find ourselves self-sabotaging or giving up prematurely.
Occasional feelings of victimhood are normal, but if this mindset dominates your life, it’s time to examine the role it plays. Living with a victim mentality can foster a sense of life’s unfairness, making it appear as if your circumstances are beyond your control. However, this is far from the truth. Remember, you always possess the power to take action, and more importantly, you are ALWAYS free to change your state. And therein lies the power of the Law of Assumption. The change of state of mind.
A change of state is key to breaking free from the victim mentality. It begins by recognizing that you have the ability to assume any state you want! Instead of perpetually focusing on what has gone wrong, shift your attention to what it would feel like IF, you were free. If you expected only positive outcomes. Take responsibility for your state. You got into that state and you have to get out of it.
Challenge the limiting beliefs that fuel the victim mentality and replace them with empowering beliefs. Understand that obstacles and roadblocks are temporary and serve as opportunities and stepping stones. Practice reframing your narrative through revision.
Misery loves company …. By fostering a supportive network, people who stop you in your tracks when you are about to start your narrative once again, is an opportunity for you to gain fresh insights, encouragement, and guidance on your journey toward liberation from victimhood. Make room for constructive criticism.
Lastly, practicing self-compassion is essential, and NO it is not the same as self pity. Be kind and gentle with yourself as you navigate this transformative process. Release self-judgment and cultivate supportive inner conversations.
Remember, the path to liberation from the victim mentality starts with a choice—the choice to embrace your power, rewrite your narrative.
Liberating Yourself from the Victim Mentality
Understanding the Law of Assumption, we realize that our beliefs shape our reality. The law teaches us that what we assume to be true becomes our lived experience. By embracing this principle, we can rewrite our narrative.
External circumstances may appear beyond our control, but we have the ability to shape our internal landscape and respond differently, either with indifference or as a positive challenge that betters us. This is our choice. If you choose to respond with empowerment, then you have inevitably and immediately influenced your reality for the better.
Let go of the belief that you are at the mercy of external forces, you are not, no one is. Everyone has the free will to change their mindset.
The Law of Assumption is always at work, whether we choose to be conscious of it or not.
You hold the power to break free from the victim mentality by deliberately moving into a state, the state of the positive changes that you are hoping for are already fulfilled. You are free to chose, either way, if you consciously embrace the state of an empowered person, you are using the law of assumption to become the conscious architect of your reality that you were meant to be.
Behavioral Signs of a Victim Mentality:
Placing blame on external factors or others when faced with challenges, rather than exploring personal responsibility and growth.
Struggling to recognize one’s own contribution to a situation, preventing self-reflection and obstructing personal development.
Engaging in self-criticism or criticizing others excessively, perpetuating a cycle of negativity and low self-worth.
Engaging in self-sabotaging behaviors that undermine personal progress and hinder success.
Surrounding oneself only with individuals who reinforce pre-existing beliefs, limiting opportunities for growth and diverse perspectives.
Mental Signs of a Victim Mentality:
Viewing the world as fundamentally unfair or unsafe, perpetuating a sense of powerlessness and victimization.
Succumbing to cognitive distortions, such as catastrophizing, magnifying challenges, and diminishing possibilities.
Entertaining harmful thinking patterns and fostering pessimism, constraining personal growth and hindering positive change.
Dwelling on past grievances and injustices, perpetuating a cycle of resentment and impeding personal healing.
Experiencing thoughts of self-harm or suicide, highlighting the urgent need for compassionate support and intervention.
Relationship Signs of a Victim Mentality:
Struggling with intimacy and trust, stemming from a deep-seated fear of vulnerability and potential harm.
Exhibiting emotional unavailability, shielding oneself from meaningful connections and genuine experiences.
Displaying limited empathy for others, as personal pain consumes attention and inhibits understanding.
Nurturing a mistrust of authorityfigures, perceiving them as potential threats or sources of injustice.
Engaging in scorekeeping within relationships, perpetuating a cycle of competition and resentment.
Difficulty accepting constructive criticism, as it triggers a defensive response and reinforces the victim identity.
Emotional Signs of a Victim Mentality:
Experiencing anxiety as a result of a constant state of fear and perceived vulnerability.
Battling depression, stemming from a belief in one’s powerlessness and a lack of hope for a brighter future.
Feeling unseen or unheard, as the victim mentality reinforces a sense of insignificance.
Struggling with guilt or shame, often internalizing past experiences and negative self-perceptions.
Nurturing low self-esteem, as the victim mindset erodes confidence and self-belief.
Cultivating resentment towards others, as personal pain is projected onto those who are perceived as having more control or success.
Succumbing to social isolation, as the victim mentality can create barriers to genuine connection and belonging.
Now you know what to look for within, lets learn how to turn it around.
Aligning with the Law of Assumption, we reclaim our power, embracing the belief that we are the architect of our reality.
So there is no one to blame.
And there is no one to change but self.
The Law of Assumption: Embracing Your Power
The Law of Assumption operates on the fundamental principle of personal responsibility, which stands in stark contrast to the victim mindset. To manifest our dreams and goals in any area of life, we must first recognize the pivotal role personal responsibility plays in shaping our reality.
A victim mentality thrives on externalizing blame and relinquishing control, creating a narrative where circumstances and others are responsible for our outcomes.
In this state of disempowerment, true manifestation becomes an elusive concept. However, the Law of Assumption reminds us that we hold the key to our own destiny.
Fully embracing personal responsibility, you acknowledge that YOU are the architects of your life.
Individuals who embrace Law of Assumption, or personal responsibility, understand that their assumptions and beliefs are the seeds from which their reality grows. They recognize that by shifting their state, their thinking pattern automatically aligns with their aspirations. The state of the wish fulfilled is like planting seeds in fertile ground for manifestation, they effortlessly grow into fulfilled desires, these people walk right into their fulfilled aspirations.
The Law of Assumption invites us to transcend the victim mindset by acknowledging that we are not passive observers but active creators of our lives.
Let go of blame, excuses, and self-pity, the only one who is hurt by this mindset is ourselves, and instead embrace the transformative potential of personal responsibility for our mind.
No! This is NOT perpetuating toxic positivity, and here is why:
The victim mentality and toxic positivity are two contrasting ways of approaching life’s challenges and circumstances. They are on opposite ends of the same scale, and neither perpetuates personal responsibility.
The victim mentality involves dwelling on negative experiences and perceiving oneself as a perpetual victim, which can lead to a disempowered state of mind. On the other hand, toxic positivity entails an excessive focus on positivity, denying or dismissing any negative emotions or experiences.
Toxic positivity disregards the validity of negative emotions and fails to address real-life struggles. It often imposes a pressure to maintain a façade of constant happiness and optimism, this eliminates authentic emotional processing and connections.
By embracing personal power and consciously choosing new assumptions, we can shift our state and open ourselves to a world of infinite possibilities, love, and abundance.
An inspiring example of personal power and resilience in the face of challenging circumstances is Tina Turner. Born in Tennessee and raised in humble origins, Tina endured a difficult childhood where she witnessed her father’s abusive behavior towards her mother. Tragically, she experienced a similar pattern of abuse in her own marriage to Ike Turner.
However, Tina Turner chose not to succumb to the victim mentality. Despite the adversity she faced, she summoned the strength to break free from the cycle of abuse. She courageously pursued her dreams and continued to forge her own path in the music industry.
As she journeyed through life, Tina discovered a newfound sense of spirituality through Nichiren Buddhism and became affiliated with Soka Gakkai International. This transformation and spiritual connection were instrumental in her personal growth and provided a foundation for her to cultivate inner strength and resilience.
By embracing her dreams, Tina Turner not only found professional success but also lived the latter half of her life with the love of her partner. Her story is a testament to the power of following one’s dreams, as it led her to a place of inner peace and fulfillment.
Tina Turner’s journey exemplifies the profound truth that we are meant to pursue our dreams and aspirations. They serve as guiding lights, leading us to the core of our own souls, where we can tap into our inherent strength and manifest a life of purpose and joy.
Q. The fact that you were embraced first by love, and then power – does that prove that love is more important?
A. God is Love.
Neville Goddard, from a Q & A lecture “many mansions“
Transmutation is Total Transformation | Love Covers All Transgressions
Use transmutation to manifest anything
In the journey of personal and spiritual growth, the concept of transmutation holds immense power. It is the alchemical process through which we can manifest profound transformation in our lives. Transmutation is not simply about changing external circumstances, but rather about a deep inner shift that leads to total transformation. In this blog post, we will explore how transmutation relates to the Law of Assumption to uncover the transformative potential of transmutation.
The Law of Assumption and Transmutation:
The Law of Assumption, a fundamental principle in manifestation teachings, emphasizes the power of our assumptions in shaping our reality. It is the understanding that we create our experiences based on the assumptions we hold within ourselves. Transmutation aligns beautifully with this principle, as it enables us to consciously transform our assumptions and beliefs to manifest desired outcomes.
Neville Goddard emphasized the importance of assuming the feeling of the wish fulfilled in his teachings. He believed that through transmutation of the false and limiting beliefs, we have the power to shift our state of consciousness and assume the reality we desire, and it will come to pass.
In the realm of manifestation, the concept of transmutation holds great significance. Transmutation refers to the process of transforming or changing one form of energy into another, particularly when it comes to our thoughts, emotions, and intentions. Nothing is a fixed reality. It is through the power of transmutation that we can manifest anything we desire.
Understanding Transmutation:
Transmutation is not merely about shifting or redirecting our energy; it goes beyond that. It involves a complete overhaul of our consciousness, beliefs, and perceptions. By consciously transmuting our thoughts, emotions, and intentions, we can manifest profound changes in our external reality. The world around us, that we each experience according to our perceptions, change, because we manifest what we ARE.
The Law of Assumption:
The Law of Assumption, is the power of assuming the feeling of already having what we desire. Neville taught that assuming the state of the wish fulfilled and living from that state is the key to manifesting our desires, and transmutation plays a vital role in the Law of Assumption, as it involves the alchemical process of transforming our current state of being into the desired state. This is the only doing step that we, ourselves take, when we manifest, but it is something that we consciously have to decide to do, it doesn’t do itself. The conscious transmutation is on us.
Neville Goddard’s Teachings on Transmutation?:
Neville Goddard, spoke extensively about the transformative power of transmutation. He emphasized that to manifest our desires, we must transmute any limiting beliefs, doubts, or negative emotions into positive, empowering thoughts and feelings. He used outdated language, but this is the core of his message. YOU do the shifting of your state, by deliberately deciding to turn “not having” into having, by turning the assumption of a beggar in the street into a successful man, (Neville’s own example) By choosing our state of our wishes fulfilled, we effectively transmute the energy within us, and this projects out, and align ourselves with the desired outcome, which is already created. Creation is finished, and we align with the portion of the finished product that we actually desire to experience.
“The transformation of the invisible into the visible is the greatest discovery of all time.”
Love Covers All Transgressions:
In the journey of manifestation, love plays a pivotal role. Love has the ability to transmute negative energies and bring about profound healing and transformation. Love encompasses forgiveness, compassion, and acceptance. As Rumi said, “Love is the bridge between you and everything.”
Applying Transmutation to Manifestation:
To apply transmutation to the Law of Assumption, we have to cultivate self-awareness and consciously transmute any negative or limiting thoughts and emotions that arise. Whenever we catch ourselves dwelling on doubts, fears, or scarcity, we can choose to transmute those energies into thoughts and feelings of abundance, faith, and gratitude. We have to be consistent and persistent. This is where we apply doership to us. There is no it out there that manifests, it is us. We shift our focus, and align ourselves the fulfilment of the desires, allowing them to manifest effortlessly.
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” -Rumi
Transmutation allows us to transmute negative emotions, limiting beliefs, and self-imposed limitations into their positive counterparts. By consciously choosing love, gratitude, and empowerment, we transmute fear, doubt, and lack into their higher vibrational counterparts. The limitations dissipate, and through this process, we shift our energetic frequency and align ourselves with the abundant possibilities of the already manifest universe.
The Transformative Power of Love:
Love, the most powerful force in the universe. Love has the ability to transcend and dissolve all transgressions, including self-doubt, fear, and past mistakes. It is through love that we can transmute negativity into positivity, pain into healing, and limitation into expansion.
“Love is the most Powerful Force in the Universe”
-Albert Einstein.
“Love Is the Fulfillment of the Law“
-Romans 13:8-10
“Love is the bridge between you and everything.” – Rumi. This profound truth highlights that love is not just a personal experience, something that we feel for some people, but also a unifying force that connects us with all aspects of existence. The obstacles are our own false and limiting beliefs, but love skips past all that, obstacles mean nothing. Through love, we bridge the gap between our desires and their fulfillment, between our present reality and the manifestation of our dreams. Whatever happens between is none of our concern.
Transmutation as a Path to Total Transformation:
Transmutation is not a one-time occurrence, or a one and done, but a continuous process of inner growth and expansion.
Persist in assuming the feeling of your wish fulfilled until you are possessed by it and this assumption will harden into fact…. This highlights the importance of embodying the transmuted state until it becomes our natural state of being. Again, there is not “it” out there that manifests for you. YOU are the “it”. You continue to realign, and realign, and realign…
Love, as the ultimate force of transformation, covers all transgressions and paves the way for total transformation. I have seen miracles happen through total trust in love.
“Don’t be satisfied with stories, how things have gone with others. Unfold your own myth.”” -Rumi
Through transmutation, we unfold our own myth, rewriting the narrative of our lives and stepping into a reality filled with love, abundance, and fulfillment.
In the realm of spiritual wisdom, there exists a profound concept that teaches us the transformative power of love and compassion. The principle that transcends religious boundaries and resonates deeply with the human experience. Love covers all transgression. This is the core of all teachings. Let its meaning soak into every fiber of your being.
The Universal Principle of Love:
Love, in its purest form, is an extraordinary force that can transcend the limitations of human understanding. It has the power to heal wounds, dissolve animosity, and nurture profound connections between individuals, it has the power to manifest what we call miracles. Love ignites compassion within us, prompting acts of kindness and forgiveness that lead to deep emotional and spiritual transformation. But it has to be without ulterior motives. While this concept we explore finds its roots in various spiritual and philosophical traditions, its essence resonates throughout different cultures and belief systems. Love has the power to transcend boundaries.
Practical Application in Daily Life:
Integrating this principle into our daily lives requires conscious effort and a commitment to self-reflection. By cultivating love within ourselves, we create a fertile ground for not only a personal transformation, but it is also the only lasting possibility for a collective transformation. A true collective change can only come from within. The world around is a mirror reflection of our own consciousnesses, and outer change without inner change can never last.
Every single individual has the same potential within, to heal and transform through love, compassion, and forgiveness.
