Use this technique of you are stuck

To rise to the level of any state is to automatically become that state in expression. But, in order to rise to the level that you are not now expressing, you must completely drop the consciousness with which you are now identified.

Until your present consciousness is dropped, you will not be able to rise to another level.

Do not be dismayed. This letting go of your present identity is not as difficult as it might appear to be.

One of the most resistant beliefs, is that wich others hold about us ESPECIALLY family, and long time friends.
They may have a good opinion of you, I hope they do, but they also have limiting beliefs about youi that prevent them from seeing you the way you wish to be seen (unless you are one those lucky few)

Using Neville Goddard’s techniques of living from the end, see your family now talking to you as if you were THAT already. Fully self expressed, unafraid to be who you are, or wealthy, or someone who can keep a relationship easily,whatever it is that has been difficult for you.

If they hold you in a shy state, when you want to be an artist, you will not feel comfortable expressing your true nature, you might dabble a little in art or expression but only in a way that doesn’t make your family uncomfortable. Follow Neville’s advice and stop the internal or external struggle right away, and go into imagination, and there, experience the, being in awe of your incredibly unique artistic side. Hear them praise you, hear them admire you, and hear them support you. Let God do the rest, just adjust the view they have of you inside your mind and heart and go about your business, daring to show a little more and a little more of yourself as you are guided to.

The ancient teachers warned us not to judge from appearances because, said they, the truth need not conform to the external reality to which it relates.

They claimed that we bore false witness if we imagined evil against another – that no matter how real our belief appears to be – how truly it conforms to the external reality to which it relates – if it does not make free the one of whom we hold the belief, it is untrue and therefore a false judgment.

We are called upon to deny the evidence of our senses and to imagine as true of our neighbor that which makes him free.

Now turn this around and remember that YOU are also a neighbor, and while you in your lack of self assertion, are doing a divine disservice by succumbing to someones negative or restricted idea of you, they are also commanded to see YOU as your best self, fully self expressed and happy, healthy, wealthy and whole. You elevate the whole world when you release those shackles of another’s limited view of you. DARE to let them see you as you wish to be.It doesn’t matter if you have tried and failed before, if doesn’t matter if you have resurrected and reinvented yourself a hundred times before, it doesn’t matter if your family or friends believe that “oh here we go again” just another failed relationship waiting to happen. Recreate THAT persons limiting beliefs about you, and make them congratulate you in your imagination, they WILL conform, they have no choice. Freedom of will does not extend to holding another in a NEGATIVE light without their consent, the negative view that you have just rejected will fall back on that person if you don’t receive it. ( you can imagine that it doesn’t) ImagineTHEM in their best light too. But I will tell you, people who judged me in the past, have suffered the very fate that they thought of me themselves. It IS true that when we wish harm on someone, or hold them down in a negative light, that it will fall back on ourselves it THEY reject that concept of themselves.

You imagined yourself into the state you are now occupying, and you can imagine yourself into any state you desire to express. No outside deity moved you into the state of misery you are now expressing; you did it yourself because you forgot who you are. You are the being who conceived every state

Let’s expand, to no outside FAMILY, or FRIEND, actually moved you into this state, you received their concept of you and believed it. Reject it now, by imagining them telling you how amazing you are. I tell you your world will change so fast!

Nothing is more important to us than our conception of ourselves, and especially is this true of our concept of the dimensionally great One within us.

Those who help or hinder us, whether they know it or not, are the servants of that law which shapes outward circumstances in harmony with our inner nature.

It is our conception of ourselves which frees or constrains us

Taking your attention from one state and placing it upon the other, you die to the one from which you have taken it and you live and express the one with which you are united.

Man cannot see how it would be possible to express that which he desires to be by so simple a law as acquiring the consciousness of the thing desired.

It is true, we want it to be HARDER than this. We can’t believe that it should be this easy. But the truth is that it is the hardest thing because we DON”T DO the imagining! We keep nursing our old wounds out of some twisted victim fetish! The hardest thing to do is to give up schadenfreude, and a victim card. Let it go. Be great! Let them tell you about your greatness, let them admire you!

To attempt to change the world before we change our concept of ourselves is to struggle against the nature of things.

Everything we do, unaccompanied by a change of consciousness, is but futile readjustment of surfaces.

One of the first things man must realize is that it is impossible, in dealing with this spiritual law of consciousness, to put new wine into old bottles or new patches on old garments

That is, you cannot take any part of the present consciousness into the new state. For the state sought is complete in itself and needs no patching. Every level of consciousness automatically expresses itself.

This means that you can not take your former self with you. You take OTHER THINGS WITH you, you take the people with you (if you want to) you take with you what belongs also in the new state, but you do NOT take the comforts of victimhood into the new state, all of the pity disappears. You do not take the restricted experience of holding yourself back so as not to evoke other peoples scorn, THAT disappears. People who were formerly negative or hurtful become supportive in the new state. It is YOUR state that brings about this change. Their limiting beliefs are as powerless as your own limiting beliefs.