Manifesting love & SP. Letting go, switching gears, and Self Love

I’ve talked a bit about how you don’t HAVE to heal, and you don’t HAVE to be “that sexy bitch” to manifest your love. Because you don’t.

There is something that you eventually do have to do though….in order to manifest love, and KEEP it.

The thing is….

That is where people start to need coaching.

You probably don’t know what it is! You may very well need help seeing what it is.

That is to say, you don’t consciously know it. But inside of you, of course you know it. This is what people call blocks.

The blocks are personal to ourselves, and they are NOT a tangible real thing. What that means is that they are not real, but we create them to be real.

You probably are doing this for this very reason and it is this: You don’t have your manifestation yet. If you were not doing this you would have your manifestation.

The first thing you have to do is to take the IMPORTANCE off of your manifestation, especially if it feels like a life or death matter right now, and the way to take the importance off, is to start to manifest the THING, the thing or things that you are avoiding facing right now. You have to, you will not get out of this, because you set this up. You have created this whole hoopla, and you have to fix it, and it has nothing to do with karma, or God punishing anybody, or any nonsense like that, those are all just excuses.

I made a video somewhere about how I manifested a miracle. I made a video about how I manifested a completely random $100,000 out of thin air, and all I did was one single imaginal scene (Neville Goddard)

I never thought of it after that.

That is what you have to do. How you manifest one thing, is how you manifest all things.

Take your mind off the manifesting gas pedal, don’t press it so hard.

There are other manifesting gas pedals that you need to press.

Most likely you are using your SP as a psychological diversion to avoid doing this, whatever it is.

Maybe it is the area of your finances.

Maybe it is in the area of health

Maybe it is an education that ONLY YOU know that you believe is the only way that you will be all that you want to be, but you feel like a failure in that area, maybe a high school dropout? Maybe you have a learning disability and you know you JUST CAN’T do it. You can STILL DO IT, and people do it all the time, be one of them!

Maybe you have been putting your parenting on the back burner and your kids are out of control, you’ve given all power to the ex, the other parent, and you have checked out completely?

Maybe you have a concrete understanding that in order to become what you want to become you have to take the step from employee into business owner, but you haven’t dared.

Maybe you have an addiction to gambling, sex, smoking, or something that you know that deep down that this HAS TO STOP.

Maybe you have anger management issues. 

Or a mood disorder that has gone untreated. 

There is something that you are using to hold you back, and you know what it is, even if it is deeply buried. Sometimes this is such a blind spot that we just can’t see it and this is when you DO in fact need a coach. It is better, don’t go your whole life letting one single little thing put your life on hold.

In these cases, the feeling about the SP is a STRONG NEED.  When you take focus off them you will feel SCARED. You will feel like if you don’t need them, you will not even want them and that feels scary. Don’t worry. You still want what you want, even after it stops being a need.

If you don’t understand what is stopping you, try to think of all the things that scare you that has to do with your own  life, what feels like you just don’t want to think about it? Therein lies the answer.

Now, you don’t necessarily have to finish your special thing, whatever it is, let’s say it was an education, and you have six years to go. Please don’t think this means that in six years, then you can manifest your SP, it does not mean that. But that issue has to become visible for you, and you have to come to accept it, and you have to begin walking on that path. This is what self-love looks like, and as you know, everyone talks about self-love. When you hear self love and you think oh no that is bs i don’t need that, well that is usually exactly when you need it.

It is just that self love doesn’t look like most people think it looks. It looks like this: Face your issue, and handle it. That is self-love.

Now there is one case where when you start to focus on developing real real you, that you will NOT  continue to want your SP, and that is when you didn’t really love them after all, and you will discover that if that is the case, and it will feel like a “oh well, that wasn’t as important as I thought”, and you’ll move on without barely noticing. 

Now, the same thing that is true for you is true for your SP as well, so chances are that they have had something similar going on too, and the reason is that “everyone is you pushed out” (EIYPO) so you can simultaneously manifest that they are their happiest self. 

Florence Scovel Shinn actually addressed this in her chapter on love, and it is one of the most disliked parts of her book, by people who are addicted to their SP, because it involves letting go of that iron grip. Those people are like they have their foot on their SP’s neck, or a gun to their head, and they are like “love me or else” or “Be obsessed by me, I command it”  type of people. They will never see what the mistake is that they are making, until they have failed long enough,  finally meet someone else, or they decide to get help.

Let me read to you about Florence Scovel Shinn, and The Cap, and you can judge for yourself how this makes you feel, and  IF it does NOT make you feel good, well then you know exactly where your work is to be done!

“Real love is selfless and free from fear. It pours itself out upon the object of its affection, without demanding any return. Its joy is in the joy of giving. Love is God in manifestation, and the strongest magnetic force in the universe. Pure, unselfish love draws to itself its own; it does not need to seek or demand. Scarcely anyone has the faintest conception of real love. Man is selfish, tyrannical or fearful in his affections, thereby losing the thing he loves. Jealousy is the worst enemy of love, for the imagination runs riot, seeing the loved one attracted to another, and invariably these fears objectify if they are not neutralized.

For example: A woman came to me in deep distress. The man she loved had left her for other women, and said he never intended to marry her. She was torn with jealousy and resentment and said she hoped he would suffer as he had made her suffer; and added, “How could he leave me when I loved him so much?”

I replied, “You are not loving that man, you are hating him,” and added, “You can never receive what you have never given. Give a perfect love and you will receive a perfect love.

“Perfect yourself on this man. Give him a perfect, unselfish love, demanding nothing in return, do not criticize or condemn, and bless him wherever he is.”

She replied, “No, I won’t bless him unless I know where he is!” “Well,” I said, “that is not real love.”

“When you send out real love, real love will return to you, either from this man or his equivalent, for if this man is not the divine selection, you will not want him. As you are one with God, you are one with the love which belongs to you by divine right.”

Several months passed, and matters remained about the same, but she was working conscientiously with herself. I said, “When you are no longer disturbed by his cruelty, he will cease to be cruel, as you are attracting it through your own emotions.”

Then I told her of a brotherhood in India, who never said, “Good morning” to each other. They used these words: “I salute the Divinity in you.” They saluted the divinity in every man, and in the wild animals in the jungle, and they were never harmed, for they saw only God in every living thing. I said, “Salute the divinity in this man, and say, ‘I see your divine self only. I see you as God sees you, perfect, made in His image and likeness.’”

She found she was becoming more poised, and gradually losing her resentment. He was a Captain, and she always called him “The Cap.”

One day, she said, suddenly, “God bless the Cap wherever he is.”

I replied: “Now, that is real love, and when you have become a ‘complete circle,’ and are no longer disturbed by the situation, you will have his love, or attract its equivalent.”

I was moving at this time, and did not have a telephone, so was out of touch with her for a few weeks, when one morning I received a letter saying, “We are married.”

At the earliest opportunity, I paid her a call. My first words were, “What happened?”

“Oh,” she exclaimed, “a miracle! One day I woke up and all suffering had ceased. I saw him that evening and he asked me to marry him. We were married in about a week, and I have never seen a more devoted man.”

There is an old saying: “No man is your enemy, no man is your friend, every man is your teacher.”

So one should become impersonal and learn what each man has to teach him, and soon he would learn his lessons and be free.

The woman’s lover was teaching her selfless love, which every man (person)  sooner or later, must learn.”

Florence Scovel Shinn,  The Game of Life and How to Play it.

Notice how everyone you pushed out works in action. This is how the importance is reduced, and how you replace YOUR will with your true will. This is how you allow the inner “Wu Wei” to go to work for you. Remember, if you are doing all the work, manifesting like that is the only thing on your mind, you are not actually manifesting, you are forcing. Real manifesting is effortless action that moves itself, and for that you have to get out of the way. You see, there are no real tangible blocks, the only block there is, is you, refusing to get out of the way.

Anna Bäck.